|The Mental and Emotional
Tool Kit for Life
To fix anything that's broken, and build something better
|Promises I Make
|The Ten Tools
Tool #1 To understand and appreciate the role emotion plays in everyday life
Tool #2 To have Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA) and Other Accepatnce (UOA)
Tool #3 To have an Internal Locus of Control
Tool #4 To recognize irrational thinking in yourself and others
Tool #5 To know how to correct irrational thinking
Tool #6 To have a step-by-step approach to potentially troubling life events
Tool #7 To assert yourself with I-Messages
Tool #8 To recognize when you and others have Mistaken Goals
Tool #9 To evaluate your own thoughts, feelings and action
Tool #10 To understand why change is hard, and what it takes to change
|E-books about the "Tool Kit"
available at Smashwords.com and other online book outlets
|At times, we all have more emotion than we'd like to have. It often causes us to make
mistakes with other people. For some, it gives purpose to unhealthy, self-defeating behavior
that they struggle to stop engaging in. Generating emotion is part of being human, but it's
not some inevitable product of what happens to us. We can learn to generate less emotion.
This book will show you how to.
|No one can hurt our feelings. That's semantic and scientific nonsense. The truth is that it's
what we choose to think about others and what they say or do that really determines how
we feel, be it hurt or anything else. I will teach you how to use the power of choice to earn
the equivalent of a black belt in Mental and Emotional Karate and stop being a victim of
others comments or actions.
|Parenting and teaching can be tough. It's easy to generate more emotion than is helpful
and make mistakes, especially with the most troubled and troublesome young people. This
book was written by a health education teacher who became certified in cognitive
behavioral therapy to better understand and help students, and ended up helping himself
in the process. He can help you do all three things.
|Most people don't really understand exactly why they feel bad, and because of that, don't
realize just how easy it can be to feel better. This book is intended to do exactly what it
says, give you a quick way to tune yourself up emotionally so that your life can run
smoother. There are 8 simple steps you can take to start feeling a whole lot better quickly.
They are steps anyone can take.
|Most people live their lives based on a big lie, and don't realize it. That lie is that what other
people say and do, and what happens makes them feel the way they do. Believing that lie
causes people to feel worse than they need to, and to miss many opportunities to feel
better. Learn the truth about how feelings come about, the choices you really have, and
how to use those to feel better.
|There are a lot of books about how to manage stress better. The strategies other books
give do help lower stress. However, they are often what therapists call "band aids" that
only give temporary relief, and only while you're doing them. There's a difference
between temporarily feeling better, and getting better. Getting better means permanently
reducing stress. This book shows you how.
|It's Just an Event
It's your choice how you want to feel
|So much that goes wrong in the lives of individuals, families, schools and society is
caused by people generating more emotion than is necessary or helpful in response to
their life events, and what they do because of it, or to deal with it. That is why emotional
management is the most important life skill. Many self-help books give wonderful advice
and information and even teach helpful skills. However, someone has to be in the right
cognitive and emotional place to access and act on that advice, and to perform such skills.
Most self-help books neglect to teach people how to get there. This book teaches truly
effective emotional management by teaching people how to develop an internal locus of
control, to recognize and correct irrational thinking, and to have unconditional self and
other acceptance. It also teaches a step-by-step approach that can be taken to any
troublesome life situations.
(50 Minute, 2-3 hour, half or full day)
The Mental and Emotional Tool Kit Troubleshooting with Troubled Students
For teachers, student teachers, students For teachers and parents
Mentally and Emotionally Vaccinating Students "Tool Time" Workshops / Groups
against mental health, health and social problems For troubled and troublesome students
Mental and Emotional Karate A Mental and Emotional Tune-up
against bullying and other social problems For people of all ages
Mental and Emotional Fitness for Students
to achieve more academically and athletically REFERENCES
(LinkedIn profile) Contact Information
B.S. Health Education M.A. Education email@example.com
Taught health education for 33 years firstname.lastname@example.org
30 post graduate hours in REBT email@example.com
Primary certification in REBT and REBE 815-353-5312 cell
75 hours past Masters 815-344-6115
Represents the Chicago Institute for REBT www.mentalandemotionalkarate.com
"Tool Time" group facilitator
Adjunct Professor - International Renewal Institute
State and National Award Winning Nature Photographer (http://ray-mathis.artistwebsites.com/)
|Presentations and Workshops
I invite you to read an
article I wrote that was
published on the Our
Parenting Spot website
Why kids do things that
aren't good for them &
what you can do about it
|In Our Schools
|The "Tool Time" Approach to Discipline Problems